A collaborative conflict resolution I have been engaged in was with my
husband. I was tired of doing most of the work at home. I was tired of having
to always ask him to do something. I expected him to see what needed to be done
and do it; but that never happened. So we had a discussion. I carefully defined
the issue, that I was tired of doing most of the work around the house and
couldn’t understand why he didn’t see what needed to be done and do it without
me nagging him. Then I listened to his perspective, to what he had to say. It
amazed me to hear him say that he was honestly clueless about what needed to be
done and that if things went undone, it didn’t bother me as it did him. We were
both open, careful and considerate in our conversation. He agreed with me that
it wasn’t fair that I did most of the work. I asked him what we could do about
it since it bothered me a lot. He suggested that I write down what I’d like him
to do each day. I started writing it down and putting it on the refrigerator.
That didn’t work since he said he didn’t notice the list. I asked him where I
should put the list, and he suggested the bathroom mirror. Now it’s a rare day
that I do all of the work anymore!
Hi Lee! I enjoyed your post on collaborative conflict resolution. You used a great personal experience to relate it back to the topic which I thought was on point! Your story was quite hilarious because I know exactly how you feel. In relationships, I think the hardest thing to do is communicate with one another in a collaborative way without screaming at one another. Relationships are seen to have the toughest problem with communicating with one another in a healthy manner. I'm glad that you were able to communicate with your husband in a calm and mature way in order to deal with the problems you guys were having about the chores. It was funny to read about how your husband said he didn't have a clue prior to your talk, because let's face it, men typically don't listen to girls! I thought you approached the situation perfectly and you guys were able to solve the problem and reach a solution. Your new way of reminding him of his to-do list seems to be working very effectively for both of your needs. That's a perfect example of collaborative conflict resolution. You guys were able to collaborate and discuss the issue together and express how you felt which ultimately led to a succesful outcome. Great job, and great post!
ReplyDeleteHey there! I enjoyed reading your examples that you have included in your post. I know that working out a solution sometimes can be hard but its best if we do. Personally I believe that collaborative conflict resolution is the best in resolving conflict. This is because both sides are able to agree on a solution. Honestly it seems to be more thought out that way too. I realized that this option is ideal when the two parties care about the relationship since conflict can damage it. By being open and working together towards the solution it can also both parties be able to get to know each other better. Good job on this post this week!
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